Dont worry I found one,
1st microsoft digital media edition plus and sync came up... but after alot of work to get it installed even though I had the cd from years ago I had a problem finding the authencity code it only sync wma files and the like.... wooo hoo right
I find playlistsync
http://www.pocketpcfreewares.com/en/index.php?soft=1242
which works beautifully for mp3, (not acc and the such)
oooooooooooooh and it does it through activesync... what amazing (pretty slow though)
so if your looking there it is, I am pretty proud of myself so tell me if it works for you cause I need the love hahhaha