Please don't double post.
Now, to the questions:
The biggest issue with serial communications is that the way it is set up Activesync assumes that any communications on the Dell Axim bottom port is an attempt to sync through USB. Activesync then triggers a communications session at very high priority. Unfortunately, the GSP unit that is actually connected doesn't respond properly, but Activesync has no way to abort the attempt. The Axim slows to a crawl and has to be Soft reset (or worse) to recover.
Also, Dell only engineered the bottom port for USB as a device. To get to RS232 signals requires some voltage level and timing changes. To do that the Dell cable has a little board in it that has a chip that makes the change. Unfortunately Dell designed it with the requirement that a certain pin be held high to trigger the chip. It's no problem with the true RS232 port, but a big problem with the partial serial port on most GPS units because they don't provide that signal so the card doesn't start.
Ok, enough background. The process defined by PC-Mobile is to kill Activesync on the Axim, start the mapping software and get it to look at the serial port (COM1) for the signals and then connect the GPS to the Axim. That sequence blocks Activesync from seeing the signal and going into sync mode. I use that process every day and it works. My serial GPS is a Haicom, but I have used a Magellan as well.
Now, the serial cable from PC-Mobile is one-way, from the GPS to the Axim. If that is all you want to do, then just follow the procedure and it should work. IF you want to send signals TO the etrex from the Axim, then you need to read
this thread. If you aren't handy with a soldering iron, print it out and take it to someone who is and see if they can help you.
A good program to test with is GPSViewer from Holux. You can download it from their web site for free. It allows you to see what the GPS is doing.
The Axim serial port is Com1, and NMEA standard is 4800 baud, so set that for the extrex, if you need to.
Mapopolis has an install program that runs on the PC and installs to the Axim through Activesync. After that you download the maps you want to the Axim and you should be ready to go. If you are a little more tech savvy, you can download the .cab file and copy it to the Axim and then doubletap it to run it to install.
Hope all that helps.