Trust me, move on. I was friends, and had a crush on this on girl for about 5 years. I went to college, she went to college but we remained friends. A little over 2 years ago we got together and she's now my fiance. Trust me, if things are meant to work...they will. Fate has this funny way of working out.
It would be in your best interest to continue to be nice to this young woman, but at the same time develop other interest (and new friends). Becoming obsessive over anyone could lead to some serious emitional issues. Please don't take this the wrong way, Normal people go through similar circumstances when their young - I guess you're becoming more mature.
I agree with whoever said to stop paying attention to her for a while. You're making yourself too available to her. She doesn't find anything challenging about you.
Ah... but maybe that's the only reason he is interested in her? If she comes around, will he loose interest if the challenge is gone?
Anyway... here is a true story.
When I was 13 (oh my God, 23 years ogo!) this new girl moved into my town and was in my Sunday School class. It was love at first site, for me. I was in absolute agony as we got older and I saw her interested in other guys. She "came around" when we where both 16, and we dated for a year and half. Then she dumped me. I was in absolute agony again as I saw her date other guys, and couldn't even get out of bed the day she got married.
Fortunately, she moved far away, and I didn't have to see her and her husband and kids on any kind of regular basis.
Unfortunately, I wasted a lot of time and energy trying to "win her back" after she dumped me. Turns out she had been dating someone else the last two months we where together.
I was probably 25 years old before I realized that in the entire 12 years I had known her that I had never seen her without a boyfriend. She was so insecure that she couldn't bear being alone. I don't think she ever felt the same way about me as I felt about her, I was just someone who was there between other nameless faceless boyfriends.
Back to the story... at the same time, when I was 13, there was another girl in my Sunday School who felt the same way about me, and she was crushed when she saw how interested I was in the new girl. She pined away for me over the years the same way I did this other girl.
I fell head over heels for her when I was 23 years old. She had been head over heels for me for at least 10 years.
We've been married for 13 years this month!
Despite being happily married and deeply in love with my wife, I still get a deep ache when I think about that girl I fell in love with when I was 13 years old. You *never* really forget your first love.
I think the luckiest people in the world are couples who are *both* each other's first real love.
It's easy for people (both guys and gals) to take others for granted and just enjoy being the centre of attention. After all, it's really flattering and makes you feel important inside. If you feel this girl is doing just that and not being a friend to you at all, well then I say, forget about her and move on. It's cruel on her part and you deserve better. If, however, you two get along well, and she treats you with respect and kindness, then I think it would be fine to remain friends, etc. After all, even if nothing happens, you still have a good friend right?
If you do need to move on, the easiest way to do so is to find something else to occupy your mind. Seeing as this is the summer and you are on vacation (am I right?), try doing something you really enjoy, or hang out more with your friends, etc. Just make sure you're not in places where she'll be. By getting in involved with other people and things, you give yourself a chance to meet someone WAYYYYYYYYY better!
Thanks, ya were pretty good friends, but also my best friend is a girl and shes really good friends with the girl i like, and shes like bugging her to tell her if she likes me, cause we think shes just shy and dosent wanna tell anyone, and so my friends gonna bug her until she finally tells, or well, maybe not tells...
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As others have said, "if it's going to happen it will." My wife and I have been married for 11 years and we both new the moment we met each other that we were soul mates. I know how I felt when the feelings I had for my first love weren't reciprocated, and it sucked. When it's time you'll know.
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Hey yall, I have a new problem! Now don't get me wrong, my other problem still exists, its just, theres another one added to the list (long list may I add).
Ok, I have a crappy computer.
533mhz
128 ram
20gig hdd
8mb no name brand video card
And I bought 2 PC games that won't work on my computer cause it dosen't meet the requirements. My dad has his own computer, a: 2.8ghz, 512ram, top of the line computer, and guess what he uses it for...typing. And so I asked him if we could trade computers so I could play the games I spend a hundred of my hard earned cash on. And he said no you can play them on my computer, so I said fair enough, but the only time I play them is after he goes to sleep! And so he said too bad, your problem.
Anyone have any convincing ideas?
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I have a comment about your girl problem. :) Tell your friends to leave her alone and quit asking. For one thing, if she has already said she doesn't, she is not likely to admit that she lied even if she does. Also, all it will do is make her feel like she is pushed into a corner and it will irritate her.
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