Congrats Kpduty! That is a wonderfull idea! I am a pilot. Fly commercial now, but back in the day I was a flight instructor at one of them little airports just like the one by your house. I can tell you of all the different types of flying I have done, form small aerobatic planes, flying skydivers, flight instruction, charter, to the jets I currently fly. Nothing was a better time then learning to fly! Good Times!
As for your questions, if you havent already I would stop in and talk with the people at the FBO. I would guess on any given day there will be some poor flight instructor sitting around just waiting for someone like you to come in looking for information. (I speak from many long boaring days I did myself!) There is a program called "
Be a Pilot" that was set up by several large organizations to intoduce people to flying. Most places will honor the "into" lesson for $49. It is a great way to give it a try. They take you up for a little bit and let you see how you like it. You will even get to fly a good part of the flight! Regardless of the deal, I would go and talk to them and let them take you for an intro flight. They will also be able to give you all the details of what is involved and the costs.
As for the flight simulator stuff. I think it can help with some of the more advaced stuff. Like learning to read the instruments and being able to visualize different procedures. But as to actual flying nothing can even come close to the real thing. A better idea would be to get a
Private Pilot Manual and do some reading. Most places use the Jeppesen Private Pilot Manual, and it is a very good book. If you decide to do the lessons with the FBO at your home airport the text and "flgiht kit" are usually included in the program or at least available there for you.
Anyway, I could go on and on. But check it out. I am sure you will not be disapointed in the expierence. If you have any questions feel free to ask! Take care and good luck~