Hi everyone, I just managed to set my laptop and my axim to synchronize over the net. Howard - thanks a bunch, your comments are most helpful. I would like to add a few tips that worked for me, in case they help anyone else.
First of all, a very helpful link is
http://www.oecadvantage.net/ajarvi/PpcVPN.html.
The problem with it is that like many other tutorials, it is geared towards modem connection, and not wi-fi.
What I found that worked for me was the following: after creating my VPN on my WinXP Pro laptop, I put in the TCP properties addresses from the 172.16.x.x block (it is the least used out of the 3 internal network blocks, and will avoid confusion if your axim is assigned by DHCP a 10.x.x.x or 192.168.x.x address).
On my axim I went to the connections tab, and changed what we usually do: instead of setting eveything to "work", I set the first and the third to "internet". This way I could separate my internet connection from my VPN connection, which operates under the middle entry (work settings). I set up my VPN in the work settings to point to my static IP address, and entered nothing else.
In order to synchronize with my laptop and not be recognized as a guest, I used PocketHosts to associate my laptop's name with the lowest IP address I entered in the VPN TCP properties.
After all these preparations, what I did was this:
1. Connected to the network (any open network) as usual
2. Went to the connections tab, and tapped "connect" on the middle entry (work settings - once you set the first and third entries to "internet", the "connect" of the middle one is enabled). I was prompted for my username and password. Upon entering them I was connected to my laptop's VPN.
3. Started activesync from my axim, and synchronized.
Like Howard says, VPNs are easy on firewalls. After I did it once, all of my wireless syncs, even through my home wireless network, automatically connect through the VPN. But who cares? It is just as fast.
A couple of other points to notice: when you are connected to your VPN, PocketDHCP shows two adapters - one is the one through which you are connected to the internet, and has your current address. The other one is the VPN adapter, and has the address assigned to you by your laptop.
When you open PocketHosts while connected to your VPN, it will show the entry you created and the ppp entry of the VPN gateway. Your axim will synchronize as itself and not as a guest only when these two entries show the same IP address (which they should by now).
I hope I helped, and as always - will be glad to hear comments.
Ron
P.S. Working with axim basic, ppc2002, and WinXP Pro.